Bare with me here, they had only been “dating” for a week!When I asked her about the way she was with him her response, “That’s how I thought couples acted.” When I asked her where in the world she got that idea, “That is what the couples at school do.” I had to explain to her that she and this boy had only been dating for a week.These gifts do not make the relationship money or body oriented. Parents need to be aware of the amount of time and energy being put into the romance. Be there, continuing to communicate, and help your teen see that this is not the end of their world, but is a chance to grow and become a caring adult. If your child begins to neglect school and other previously enjoyed activities it is probably too intense. I will be back for supper.” If your child has that habit, you can expect in the dating field as well.
This is not the time to ridicule your child, and tell them they are too young or make fun of the object of their affection.If your ten year old tells you she is “going out” with the boy down the block, do not just jump in and declare “You are not going anywhere! When your child is old enough to actually be dating, keep informed.” but instead get a feel for what this means to her. Ask that they tell you where they are going, and with whom, and when to expect them back. “I am going to Wal Mart with the neighbor, and I should be back at pm” is just a common courtesy.Instead, celebrate with your young person that they can know such a wonderful person and share such exciting feelings.This will keep you in the loop, and you will continue to have open lines of communication.