My dilemma is that I really like the person I’m dating, but I recently met someone else who interests me.
I don’t want to break off a good relationship to go on a date with the new person, only to find that we don’t have much in common.
So to answer your question, what you do is have a long overdue talk about where the two of you are in this relationship, and explain that you don’t want to be exclusive.
But in larger terms, I hope you’ve explored, or are exploring, what went wrong in your marriage and what your contributions were to its lousiness.
Don’t be embarrassed about the college you’re headed to.
The only embarrassing thing would be not taking advantage of the opportunities you find there.
I don’t know whether you lack the intrinsic talent to make it in art and design, but even the most transcendently gifted need grit and drive to get ahead in this tough profession.
If it’s not meant to be, you might find other work in the design world that would still be gratifying and fulfilling.
How do I try out a new relationship while gently easing out of my old one, without crossing cheating boundaries and maligning my good name?
That is, when the new relationship is solid and continuing.
When you first became single again, you thought you would happily juggle your many options.
You may think you want to play the field forever, but I’m guessing that at some point you’ll tire of living such a bifurcated life.
If you come to love someone, it will take a lot of energy to keep her concealed from the other people you love most. But I have heard from children of divorce who grew up with a sense that a parent sacrificed a personal life for their sake, or that a parent indeed had a love life, but it was always hidden from them.